Showing posts with label culture. Show all posts
Showing posts with label culture. Show all posts

Friday, August 7, 2009

Norms, Conformity, non Conformity

"To think that one has gone too far -- that means one has already accepted society's norms. It is already a form of self-censorship."
-(Oliviero Toscani, designer of Benetton commercials)
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my interpretation


once or twice in a day, you would hear a tiny little voice in your head telling you what you are doing does not feels right. i believe most of you would have encounter this.
so where does that voice comes from?
you can say that it is your conscience speaking. but don't you think most often than not, our thoughts are highly influenced by what we perceive as norms?
we act like what the society expects us to be.
we walk like how we are supposed to be.
we talk like how we are supposed to be.
and when we come across someone who doesn't, we judge. we gossip. we stab them right at the face saying "you do not belong to us"
but have you ever thought of WHY we react that way? or so to say, why the society in general REACTED that greatly?
it is because the general mob of them feel that they are challenged.
or rather, they are jealous.
JEALOUS? you say?
yes. jealous. these people gossip about the people who dare to go against the norms because the non conformists are doing EXACTLY what the conformists do not dare to do.
conformists might think of going against the norms. but they never make a change and act in that sense.
non conformist on the other hand, act, walk, talk, the way they want without worrying a bit about the norms.

however, non conformist is very hard to come by.
once in a while, you would see a tinge of rebellion from the conformist.
yet peer pressure would tie them back down.
if only the rebellious conformist can hold on a little longer...
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when a non conformist becomes phenomenal, other conformists would start to move towards copying THE non conformist, so that they feel as if they are being rebellious towards the societal norms.
well, they are self-deceiving really.
even if you can imitate what THE non conformist do, you can never BE the non conformist.
and i'll tell you exactly wHY.
you never got deep and interested enough to grasp the essence of being a non conformist.

Go figure.
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Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Living in Memory

生命的脆弱。。
聊天时~~~ 忽然提起家中20余年前的一场浩劫。
生命真的可以如此的短暂。
那时我还未来到世上。。是不幸?还是有幸?
不幸的是我根本没有认识他们的机会。。
有幸的是,我越过了这个充满了煎熬的时期。
若二叔、三叔还在。。 那么我们家里应该就不会那么不安宁了吧?
年轻有为的两位叔叔~ 正值年轻旺盛的年岁。。
却在这场浩劫中失去了一切。
不曾和他们接触的我,总会为他们觉得可惜。
可是,若从另一方面看来。。。
却觉得,能够来到世上活个20多年
也算不错了吧?
人生啊~
不必太过于强求。。
欲强求就越痛苦啊~
若有一天我非得撒手离开
我希望我不会回头留恋
记忆~ 已经足够~
到了人生尽头。。也该是继续接下来的旅途的时候了。。。
虽然我是佛教徒,但并不完全接受所有的思想。。
毕竟,对我而言,宗教只不过是为人类在世上寄托的思想架构。
为了心境安定的思想产物。