Getting off from being a doormat to a Better life

Feel taken for granted most of the time? Read on...

sometimes it is how you act on that leads to you not being taken seriously by others...
are you true to your feelings? how do you treat yourself? with respect? no? do you respect others' decision more than your own?

Read through these steps and see if they can help...
1. Write down your thoughts in a journal daily. That way you become aware of what you are saying to yourself.

2. Then journal the things for which you are truly grateful and what you like about yourself.

3. Look for the reasons you take other people's lives more seriously than your own. Why do you value them more than yourself?

4. Challenge your self beliefs around how much or little you value yourself.

5. Find ways to trusting yourself, your abilities and skills.

6. Look back at all your successes and keep a list visible for when you are feeling down or worthless.

7. Look at the consequences of keeping a low self esteem.

8. Stop comparing.

9. Be honest to yourself: decide exactly how you feel about yourself now and ask whether you want to change that.

10. Value yourself.

11. don't sweat the small stuff, which does not really matters. if you don't think it will matter to you for the next two days or a week later, then it is not a matter of much concern. just let it go and focus on things that are of much importance.

thinker

i spend time to think...a lot...

i get easily touched...
by all the small things happen around me...

i am sensitive, but in a positive way.
at certain period, my inner soul seem kind of fragile...

once touched, feeling starts to swell inside me..
yes feelings swelled.. but they do not destroy me..
instead, they got me stronger.
though fragile, i never break easily..
this is me.

How your state of mind affects your emotions...

Yes... A good state of mind will grant you a healthy and happy life. How we feel, think and act contributes to our emotional well being. To some extent the way you feel is dictated by the way you think, and bad feelings are often the result of unhelpful patterns of thinking.

Even though nobody feels blissfully happy, always having positive thoughts and behaves sensibly - yet if you're in a generally good state of mind, it's much easier to enjoy life, rather than feeling beaten and discouraged at times.

First, what you need to do is try to look at things surrounding you in a new light. Our mood can be affected by all sorts of things, including lifestyle, past experiences, who we met, who we are with, who we have talked to and such...

However, what you need to remember is that our state of mind is only partly influenced by the past or by physical factors. The rest is down to us though... the way we think about things and how we manage different aspects of our lives. Most of us have much more influence over our feelings than we thought we can.

I'm sure some of you might say "That's impossible! We can't always avoid negative thoughts!!" it is true, but one of the secrets is to balance between the two. Mental balance is when you are able to notice how you choose or allowing yourself to think... either negatively or better yet, to think positively.

Next time you are on the verge of swearing on that "unworthy" train services or whatever that is on the way of causing you stress, try to look at the situation in a different way. And whenever you come across obstacles in life and you start criticizing yourself, DON'T! don't say "I'm useless.." say instead "I will put more effort and will success in this!" Don't let the 5 seconds of negative thoughts affects your mood for the whole day ahead! =) Remember, "state of mind is very important!"