建立人脉 social networking (FIRST)

赢得朋友，建立好生活中的人脉。。

no, we are not just talking about your BEST buddies. now we are also talking about social networking.

若你的电话老是不响，是时候该打出去。 很多时候，打个电话会给你意想不到的收获。交了新朋友，别忘了联络老朋友。（很多时候我们没办法兼顾）可是那只是借口。每隔几周挪出几分钟时间甚至是上个小时来联络老朋友也是值得的。朋友越多越好，不是吗？交际的一大诀窍？ 主动。initiative. 老是等待怎么可能带来想要的结果？老是被动怎么会吸引想要的人际关系？

别坐在那儿愣住了。察觉想要认识的朋友了吗？那就主动跟他/她微笑吧！是个很好的开始。真的。本人尝试很多次了。^^

recounting the first week at UCSI

First week @ UCSI~

Everything catches my eye in this campus.. LOL
i am like.. stepping to a whole new world.. a diverse cultural campus. which is VERY interesting indeed!

What's more interesting, is that everywhere i go, there seems to be new faces whom i do not recognise. well, i am the type of people who gets excited to see new faces, but only friendly new faces, that is. Not all are friendly, mind you. most of them just averted their glances while you come across them in corridors. what's wrong with a tiny nod? or a friendly smile? it just makes me feel like it's all too "robotic campus life"~
maybe i'll turn into just like them after a week or two.. immobile faces. > <>

all course selection drama have also come to an end by the end of the week. so that's my first week in UCSI, pretty much a good start socially, a little bummed with course selection, yet it's all in all a good 1st week.

Well, until now... week 10, New Era College is still my preferred college.. Im not complaining or anything... all i want is the DEGREE from UCSI.. i don't care anything other than that. =P I aim for success!!

Socialise, be Funny and Make new Friends...

1. Relax and... Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to express your opinions. If someone insults you, just ignore them - they have no idea what they're talking about! You have nothing to loose by expressing your views, your ideas might contribute to a discussion by stimulating more ideas from those around you.
   
2. Be Optimistic. Even if you are feeling really down, remember that there's always something out there to smile about. A positive outlook will make people want to be around you more. So, the next time you feel down, and everything do not seem right, try this. Look into a mirror (anywhere you can find one) and see your expression changes by trying to smile. Just by doing this, you will feel better. Seriously. I did that and it works.
   
3. Smile as much as you can. Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying. And smiling makes you look more approachable.
   
4. Share interesting/ silly idea. Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship. Don't be afraid to be silly once in a while.
   
5. Listen more than you talk. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix - but don't hijack the conversation. Don't steal the limelight from your others. Be a good listener.
   
6. Start by doing little things if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to school, work, or wherever, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them. It makes all the difference.
   
7. Say "hello" to those that don't talk much. Share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Avoid talking about the weather - as Tom Waits says, "Strangers talk about the weather." Try to compliment them. You'll likely to be the person who light up their day.
   
8. Don't expect perfection out of anyone, especially yourself. For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, just make fun of the situation. It works as an ice breaker.
   
9. Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well. And admit it, older people loves our company.
   
10. Place importance on making social contacts. The people who are considered popular may not be the sharpest tacks in the box, but they are acquainting with important people who may contribute to their future careers. It is never too late to feel that being popular is important. If your work environment allows for it, host a party, organize a sports game, etc.
11. Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem. Start your journey to "self-discovery."
12. Be loyal. Little things count. If you make an appointment, be on time. If you're in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don't have anything to say at the moment).
13. Be nice to others. Always give compliments, but don't try too hard. If you are shy, take a deep breath and risk it - you never know what might happen. Again, if you are shy on the outside but a little crazy on the inside, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around or dance. Others will laugh and find you funny and fun to be with.
14. Stand up for your rights. When someone is being too hard on you or perhaps showing signs of prejudice, speak up! Let it out in the open: "Is there any reason to make you prejudiced?"
15. Be Honest. Lying will make people not want to be your friend any more.
16. Has open body language. Don't cross your arms or turn away from the crowd. Be approachable. People likes a person who is approachable.