attRaction-encounter

i am thinking. what would you do to get the attention of an opposite sex?

be crazy? be loud? try to find a topic? dance around? talking loudly around him/her? sing a song loudly? try to be around him/her as often as possible? or being attentive to his/her every need? buying gifts..?

which of those have you done to attract the attention of the opposite sex?

what i did, was pretty easy. and i believe every girls have done it. just IGNORE. i think this would happen to those guys who like the chase rather than being chased.

and it is silly that this time it happened when i was not even did it on purpose. i am very tactless and insensitive to this kinda thing. i mean seriously. at most time, i am pretty tactless, i treat guy friends just like neutral friends, no gender difference. i can be pretty close to guys so, almost every guy friend that i have, are pretty much like just plain friends.. so plain that at times it is SO weird to look at them romantically. it is more like brotherly bond, no attraction at all. lolz i don't really mind to ask for a number from guys either, it's not like i have any motive other than being friends and stay in touch. it is just what i do, to widen my social circle. to meet more people. and every people i meet, i bound to keep their contact.

ok, so it was like...i was wondering why on earth this one guy seem so nice and friendly all of a sudden. i met him once or twice and the encounter i had with him, was pretty bad. he was like a cold person, not talking nicely and acting nicely and above all, i was pretty much invisible to him. he did not leave any good impression but during after which the second time we met, still i did take down his number and joked that taking his number was pretty important but we never contact at all.

and this time we met again, and out of my expectation, he seemed nicer and i even caught him stared at me a few times, though when i looked at him in the eye, he has already averted his glances. and he was even nice enough to help (felt like i was the damsel in distress and he came to help, i was stucked with a task at hand and was thinking of a solution then suddenly out of nowhere he came over asking "what's wrong" and offered his help) what's with the attitude change eh? in the previous two times i met and worked alongside with him, he never offered help, not even a smile.

if i weren't feel more confident, i would have thought bad about his attention. (o' dark old days... the glees i got from both the boys and girls... lolz) but then again... he stared probably because i looked a little different than the previous two encounters he had with me. i am much more confident and... well... lots of the elders and friends told me that i look a lot better nowadays, (1 auntie even said "you were so FAT and UGLY!" Now look at you.. much much prettier now... ) LOLz.. even if the blemishes still kills me at times but i feel great all in all, now that i have got a healtheir lifestyle with much balanced diet and daily exercise.

so... the theory of prettier girls get more attention is true. oh well, i am not pretty at all, i am just a normal looking girl. it is just that i appear much nicer looking than i once were. haha.. if i really is THAT pretty, he would have called. wouldn't he? =P

Single= ALONE?

A: Do you have a BF?

B: Currently nope.

A: Do you feel alone?

B: Won't lah... enjoy being single.

A: You like to be alone ah? No one adore you one le...

B: HAHA.. no idea.

A: gtg... anyway good chat... would like to talk to you again. anyway, you are cute.

B: thanks. bye and drive safe.

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you must be wondering.. what was that?

well, that was a conversation i had with some guy from KL.

i call him some guy because i have no idea who he is, how he get my msn or whatever. when i approved his msn request, i thought he is my classmate or friend, never thought he is a stranger.

it seems so that he is interested in chatting and knowing about me. okay, that is not why i blog about this.

the thing that intrigues me is... this.

WHY do being single being labelled as "ALONE" "LONELY" ?

"do you feel alone"? he asked.

this question has already made me feel like.. if i being a little more flirty and whining all about the loneliness i am having, he will tell me the same and then he will surely make a move.

okay, put that aside, because i said something he has not anticipated.

i am not alone, and i am enjoying every moment of singlehood.

there are so many things i can do being single!

and until i met that someone who makes me has a heart failure (in a good way) and making me all soft inside, i think i can tell you... YES i am enjoying being single.

why enjoying being single equals to being ALONE?

and how will enjoying being single affecting someone's feeling towards me?

just affecting how he sees me, perhaps.

attraction

it is just so strange... and i am talking about attraction.

all these while, i just can't seem to find any guys that i am attracted to.

i had a few in the past but in recent two years, it's all empty.

... alright, i have met some interesting guys but.. too bad, we do not click. haha sad case right? so till now none that i come into knowing have really attracted me or attracted to me.

and i have already got sick of hearing "what that is yours will always be yours" OR else "yours will come in its own time"... blah... BORING. and have heard enough. all i wanna say is... i wanna get myself a BF! lolz.. and i don't care when and how and who and where. regardless of nation.

i am the type of woman who believes much on female independence (emotional, financial and sexuality), men should wash their own clothes, make their own bed, capable of making their own food (i will cook but he will have to know how to as well). that's just what i think men should do.

maybe you will say... probably because i do not believe in these old cliches and ideas that i am so failed in romance? Ahhh... maybe. Many if not most Malaysian guys are still very male egoistic. HA! there you go. i said it, don't beat me up because it's true.