attRaction-encounter

i am thinking. what would you do to get the attention of an opposite sex?

be crazy? be loud? try to find a topic? dance around? talking loudly around him/her? sing a song loudly? try to be around him/her as often as possible? or being attentive to his/her every need? buying gifts..?

which of those have you done to attract the attention of the opposite sex?

what i did, was pretty easy. and i believe every girls have done it. just IGNORE. i think this would happen to those guys who like the chase rather than being chased.

and it is silly that this time it happened when i was not even did it on purpose. i am very tactless and insensitive to this kinda thing. i mean seriously. at most time, i am pretty tactless, i treat guy friends just like neutral friends, no gender difference. i can be pretty close to guys so, almost every guy friend that i have, are pretty much like just plain friends.. so plain that at times it is SO weird to look at them romantically. it is more like brotherly bond, no attraction at all. lolz i don't really mind to ask for a number from guys either, it's not like i have any motive other than being friends and stay in touch. it is just what i do, to widen my social circle. to meet more people. and every people i meet, i bound to keep their contact.

ok, so it was like...i was wondering why on earth this one guy seem so nice and friendly all of a sudden. i met him once or twice and the encounter i had with him, was pretty bad. he was like a cold person, not talking nicely and acting nicely and above all, i was pretty much invisible to him. he did not leave any good impression but during after which the second time we met, still i did take down his number and joked that taking his number was pretty important but we never contact at all.

and this time we met again, and out of my expectation, he seemed nicer and i even caught him stared at me a few times, though when i looked at him in the eye, he has already averted his glances. and he was even nice enough to help (felt like i was the damsel in distress and he came to help, i was stucked with a task at hand and was thinking of a solution then suddenly out of nowhere he came over asking "what's wrong" and offered his help) what's with the attitude change eh? in the previous two times i met and worked alongside with him, he never offered help, not even a smile.

if i weren't feel more confident, i would have thought bad about his attention. (o' dark old days... the glees i got from both the boys and girls... lolz) but then again... he stared probably because i looked a little different than the previous two encounters he had with me. i am much more confident and... well... lots of the elders and friends told me that i look a lot better nowadays, (1 auntie even said "you were so FAT and UGLY!" Now look at you.. much much prettier now... ) LOLz.. even if the blemishes still kills me at times but i feel great all in all, now that i have got a healtheir lifestyle with much balanced diet and daily exercise.

so... the theory of prettier girls get more attention is true. oh well, i am not pretty at all, i am just a normal looking girl. it is just that i appear much nicer looking than i once were. haha.. if i really is THAT pretty, he would have called. wouldn't he? =P

i have a...

"Don't say "i have a dream". start to do something NOW."

this is what a reknown model said to a fresh model who has a BIG dream, that is to be the top model that bring influence to the fashion world (ie. a fashion icon)

at those words, the freshie startled. she looked rather taken abacked by what the reknown fasion icon just said.

i have a dream. but what i am doing, are they good enough for starters? am i edging closer or away from what i aim for?

am i good enough?

this kind of questions always bugging me 24/7. *tries to swat the buzzing questions from bugging me*

and what about you? what is your dream? how far have you go and how far more can you go?

Be the Person everyone wants to meet

crossed arm?


open arm?

it is all about body language!

1. Look intelligent and like you know why you are where you are. Don't be dull eyed with flat and lifeless gaze.

2. Look friendly and approachable. Average and ordinary looking people are approached more often than extraordinary people because they look less threatening.

3. Give the GREEN light to come over. if we want someone to approach us, we do several things: look directly at the person, smile and turn our body towards them. if someone is doing all three to you, they're officially open to being approached.

4. Have relaxed and open body language. The person most likely to be chatted to and hit on has their arms uncrossed, stands with legs apart rather than clamped tightly together, and have their vody turned towards the crowd.

5. Have your thumbs on display. Dominant, assertive people invariably have their thumbs sticking up/out/ on show. in palmistry, the thumbs denote strength of character and in body language, this is also a sign of superiority. Confident men and women will often leave their thumbs out when they put their hands in their pockets.

so you appear confident enough? if yes congratulations! you are on your way to become the person everyone would like to meet. people loves easy going people, not a party pooper. so light up your face and give them that confident you! =) start by changing your body posture, that helps a lot!

Good luck!

Totally Random (TWO) Laugh it UP!

Throughout the day, how many minutes/seconds of your life is coming all over by laughter? not more than a minute?

you should try to see things more lightly and laugh more.

not only does a good dose of chuckles perk up your day, it also does a world of good for your looks!

Laughing makes everyone looks better and more radiant, and hence more attractive than when you hold that serious and tense look.

stacks of old photos...

memories...

stacks of old photos...
memories and more~
fragments of past emotions came rolling in one tide after another..
blurred images~ distant memories..
at every stage of my life, i tried to be the best of myself.
this is what i see.
but... there's something missing from the pictures.
Confidence. yeah, that's it~
i knew lesser than i thought, the time those photos was taken.
but now, i know i am well equipped than those old times~
and such confidence welled inside me ever since i found myself in my 2 years of college life.
yes, i found myself.
and i am glad.
the best part, those around me, acquaintance or not, see the change in me..

looking at stacks of old photos...
deep down, i uttered "Goodbye, old me."

Mirror Technique

镜子技巧 (adapted from a China website)

镜子技巧是由美国心理学家布里斯托总结而成的，这一方法简单、有效，可以使你增加信心，强化激情。具体做法如下:

　　站在镜子前，笔直站立，后跟靠拢，收腹、挺胸、昂首、再做三四次深呼吸，直到对自己的能力和决心有了一种感受。凝视眼睛深处，告诉自己会得到所要的东西，大声说出它的名字。每天至少早晚做两次，还可以用肥皂将喜欢的口号，精彩的格言写在镜面上，只要它们确实代表你曾设想、并希望实现的某些事情即可。

　 　当你在镜子前站好，就反复对自己说，你会获得巨大成功，世界上没有任何东西能够阻止。这样做并不可笑，因为，任何渗入潜意识的设想，都可能在生活中成为 现实。眼睛作为心灵的窗户，它们不仅泄露你内心的思想活动，而且比想象的更能表达你的内心世界。一旦开始实践镜子技巧，眼睛就会产生一种你从未想到的你所 具备的力量，你会获得一种锐利的目光，使别人以为你正在注视着他们的内心世界。眼睛迟早会把信念的强度真切地表露出来，以赢得人们的赞赏。眼神能反映出一 个人在现实生活中所属的阶层、所处的位置。所以要训练你的眼睛，使之充满信心，而镜子则能帮助你。

　　最后，你将能运用镜子来重新确认自己。如果你真的想要有高度的自信心，而且这是你的目标的话，那就得把这项技巧好好地保留下来。