Thought of the Day- growing strong

one of the strength we should possess, to stand alone and still growing strong.

short story 1: a path of my own

A father in his late twenties and his 5-year-old son are on their way to another village.

the path that they are taking is one that has been existing for years, walked by hundreds and thousands of people before them.

the son, out of curiosity, eventually gets off from the path and walks on his own instead.

from his father's perspective, a path that has never been trodden on might have some unseen dangerous lurking around. and thus he cries "come back here, son! it's too dangerous to walk out of the main path!"

the son, retorts "daddy daddy, see? i did not fell! i am walking a path of my own!"

the father is taken aback by his little son's simple and straight forward thought, and as he looks on, he sees that behind his young son, there is a small and light trail, footsteps of his son is clearly evident. the path the father is taking, on the other hand, there's not even one footstep of his own left on the path he is taking.

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walking a path of our own sometimes means breaking the conventional structure, and will usually meets lots of downs than ups.

roads and paths never existed until we trodden on it day by day, one person per another. but we cannot just rely on the existed path or following it forever, it's safe yes but it also guarantees not as much chance of personal development.

to succeed, is to risk.

to risk, is to learn knowing how to let go of certain things, things that you have got used to too much that you starts relying on it.

and learning how to let go helps because letting go meaning the acceptance of newer and fresher things.

walking a path of our own is never easy.

but it is worth trying.

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END

抒发情感 之 一

人生之途 总不会太平坦

想战胜一切挫折 得提起勇气面对为佳

来个深深的吸气

希望能让我的心。。。

静如止水

也希望我外表上的乐观可以为您带来欢笑。

为您抹去脸上、心上的惆怅

别为我担心

我绝不会让您看见我流下一滴眼泪。

Chosen Quotes to Share with (SIXTEEN)

Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength.

- Eric Hoffer

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what we see as rude may be a way someone is trying to be defensive of himself, stand firmly to his perception, as a mark of strength.

therefore the more rudeness ones show, sometimes i would feel sorry for them. because i know, deep down, there must be some past that has hurt their "self" / "ego" so much that it's wounded or scarred.

to defend themselves against more hurtful experience, they tend to separate themselves from others. it won't be easy to gain their trust, so until that day, he or she will appear less friendly, more to a rude manner, in order to keep possible threats at bay.

one touching reply so far...

after my Nov 10th note on "show your support if you are a part of the chinese community..."

i got no reply so far from anyone until now.

and i got it from my friend Sharyn on Facebook.

i posted this note on Facebook notes as well and tagged lots of people who is related to New Era College, sadly though, i only get one reply from all of my coursemates and friends.

i know, some people hold the thinking that "it is too late to do anything" "there is nothing we can do" "why would they demonstrate anyway" "why causing so much trouble" etc.

it is never too late. it is this kind of strength that we students should have.

in chinese we say 追根究底, which means no giving up till you unearth the truth or understand something.

we as graduated students feel sorry and sad for the juniors.

we feel sorry if we lost this place we once called home.

we feel sorry for our own community that if NEC changed its form, flushing chinese education system out of its new system.

we do not want to lose our remaining stronghold of chinese education.

even now, 10 months since i graduated, i can hardly recognise NEC anymore.

the rapid changes have shaken NEC.

and now shaken even more and it comes in tides.

what can i say? my heart is still with NEC, rise and fall.

with all my heart i hope it will rise back up and for the better.

out of the existing thinking

the following extract is taken and translated from a book call

"Small story, Positive Strength"

"it is a night visited by heavy rain and such lightning that roams the night sky. You are on your way back home, driving and your car is loaded. And as you drove, you passed through a bus station. There were three people still waiting for their bus, all sitting anxiously, shivering in the cold night air. One of the three, is an old lady, who seem to be feeling rather ill, all pale on her face, and next to her is a man who happen to be your life savior, who works as a doctor. he is taking care of the old lady, with a look of concern. And also sitting next to the old lady, is your dream lover.

Feeling anxious and without hesitation, you drove over. IF you may only take ONE passenger. WHO would you choose?"

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the answer comes naturally, of course, would be the old lady. she is the most fragile of the three and she needs instant ride to the medical centre.

but if you choose the doctor, it is quite logical and acceptable as well because he is your life savior and you think you owe him a big one.

and if you choose to take your dream lover then, well it can be acceptable coz who knows when will you ever see a woman this perfect again?

but why not you choose to answer this way?

hand over your car keys, let the doctor drive the old lady to the medical centre and stay back with your dream girl/ boy and wait for the bus to come.

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there. life is saved, and you get to know your dream lover.

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i know, this short extract has lots of loopholes in it.

not really logical but then, the point i want to put across is,

most of the time, we are trapped within a linear thinking. and we just follow the expected thinking style that we become so predictable and lifeless (in terms of having repetitive old ideas).

and soon, we lose interest that we stop stimulate our mind and stop giving more ideas.

holding the perception "i am not going to be able to give brilliant ideas anyway"

NO NO NO...

don't give up on yourself that easily.

you read, you listened, you watched, you learned, you experienced.

and that is what makes stimulates your ideas.

one is different from another, and you already know that.

so don't doubt your mind.

you will be surprised what brilliant ideas that are hidden underneath/ behind the barrier you set for yourself.

Review: What Would You Do

"what would you DO?

what would you do if you can't do anything but just lie there?

what would you do when it all gets so cold out there that you felt nothing?

what would you do when you find that there's no one but yourself who care about you?

If you lying there, would you be thinking about your nearly impossible future? or the past? would you do anything, anything at all to change your present situation? or just lie there silently, not wanting to draw too much attention and clearly wanted to be forgotten?

If the world out there became so cold and selfish, would you be one of them? or shutting away all of that and be a lone warrior? fighting against the main stream?

If you find that you are alone in this world, so lonely that your presence seems to be a thread away from turning into vapour, what would you do to change that? would you recall the warmth you used to feel, and show your gratitude for that? or just held the hatred towards this world for not to understand and accept you?

If you lost the mobility, you should not give up cause you are still alive. you can think, you can talk. you can stand up straight again, believe it. while there's life, there's hope.

When the world out there gets so cold, stay strong and hold on, for there might be other warriors struggling too.

when you think that the whole world walks out and turns back on you, you are wrong. you are the one who shut them away, not vice versa. it's how you see things that makes the difference."

maybe the road stretch ahead seems clouded,
and there may seem never ending as the lonesome follows,
you are not alone...
with your family by your side,
u gotta have a strong believe that you will be fine,
as strength keeps one alive..."

written by Cherish (wenQ)

to share with every lone fighters out there... you are not alone.

Get what you WANT in life. Read on...

Currently i am reading...
Secret by Rhonda Byrne
and
The Astonishing Power of Emotions: Let Your Feelings be Your Guide by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Adapted from the official site of The Secret, here's a description of the book...
"The Secret reveals the most powerful law in the universe. The knowledge of this law has run like a golden thread through the lives and the teachings of all the prophets, seers, sages and saviors in the world's history, and through the lives of all truly great men and women. All that they have ever accomplished or attained has been done in full accordance with this most powerful law.

Without exception, every human being has the ability to transform any weakness or suffering into strength, power, perfect peace, health, and abundance. The Secret explains with simplicity the law that is governing all lives, and offers the knowledge of how to create - intentionally and effortlessly - a joyful life. This is the secret to everything - the secret to unlimited happiness, love, health and prosperity.

This is the secret to life."
And the secret is: the power of universal "the law of attraction."

According to Byrne the law of attraction exists in various ways: "Nothing (good or bad) can come into your experience unless you summon it through persistent thoughts" (p. 28). "Your thoughts are the primary cause of everything" (p. 33). "Your current reality or your current life is a result of the thoughts you have been thinking" (p. 71). "This is The Secret to everything—the secret to unlimited joy, health, money, relationships, love, youth: everything you have ever wanted."

These two books hold the idea on the power of thinking that everyone possess. Our thoughts are really a amazing instrument which affects what we may or may not come across in life. If we anticipate for the worst to come, there's highly likely that we may end up in a situation that is not to our liking. Likewise, if we anticipate for the positive, our brainwaves will emit positive vibes all around in such its frequency and as a result, good things happen one after another.
Every thoughts that you and I have right now, will end up deciding what you and I may face in the future. the one fraction of second of thought may trigger a lot of different possibilities.

The "self" that we are now, is the result of our past thoughts and emotions. In order to improve our lives, we must first improve our thinking. It's just simple as that. Believing that you can actually change your situation for the better is vital. It's the state of mind which affects the emotions. it's like a chain reaction. thoughts - trigger emotions - affecting behaviour/ attitude- end result= the situation one landed in. To attain self- actualisation and happiness, our emotions is the key.

It is all about self-empowerment, self-fulfillment, and getting whatever we want.
why not try this out and start to change your life today??

My blog touches someone's heart... a reply from the other part of the world

A touching reply from a reader on "What Would You Do"

"what would you DO?

what would you do if you can't do anything but just lie there?

what would you do when it all gets so cold out there that you felt nothing?

what would you do when you find that there's no one but yourself who care about you?

If you lying there, would you be thinking about your nearly impossible future? or the past? would you do anything, anything at all to change your present situation? or just lie there silently, not wanting to draw too much attention and claerly wanted to be forgotten?

If the world out there became so cold and selfish, would you be one of them? or shutting away all of that and be a lone warrior? figthing against the main stream?

If you find that you are alone in this world, so lonely that your presence seems to be a thread away from turning into vapour, what would you do to change that? would you recall the warmth you used to feel, and show your gratitude for that? or just held the hatred towards this world for not to understand and accept you?

If you lost the mobility, you should not give up cause you are still alive. you can think, you can talk. you can stand up straight again, believe it. while there's life, there's hope.

When the world out there gets so cold, stay strong and hold on, for there might be other warriors struggling too.

when you think that thge whole world walks out and turns back on you, you are wrong. you are the one who shut them away, not vice versa. it's how you see things that makes the difference."

February 22, 2007

i wrote the above blog entry last year~~~

after a few days, i received a message from a worrying parent, Mr. A. His son is suffering from cancer and the disease is getting worse, killing him day by day~
he wrote:

"I was very touched and moved by your Feb 22, 2008 Tale. My own son is "warrior struggling", trying to stay strong. Thank you for your words. This is a picture of my son, Mike, last November."

I will of coz keep his name anonymous and his son's picture away from publishing.
but i offer full sympathy to him when i replied to him.

on the following day, i received a longer message from Mr.A.

"Miss Wen Qian Cherish,
I wrote to you yesterday about your Tale and my son. My son, M, is 20 years old. Two years ago he was found to have a cancer tumor in his spinal cord in the neck area. The cancer is called glioblastoma multiforme. The out look is not good. A little over a year ago, M was paralysed from the waist down, by a problem with one of his medicines. Through all of this he tries to be strong and positive -- always joking and laughing about things. But it gets difficult. I think one of the hardest things for him is the lonliness. Many people his age do not know what to say to him, so they just stay away. M really does not want anything different from anyone else and he craves normal convesation.
Right now M is inthe hospital. he has been there three weeks. Two days ago he looked very healthy. I thought he would be sent home. But then he started getting ill again. It is hard. Still, we are alive and there is hope. I told him he is a "warrior struggling." he liked that very much. I am going to print out your Tale so he can read it.
Thank you very much for your kind words. I wish you much success. This world needs brave people with good heart. I believe you are one.
Sincerely,
Mr. A"

Reading this letter, i was speechless. Really, because i know if i was the friend of his son, i won't know what to say either. words will fail me~ what to say when you don't really understand his pain? i can do nothing more than showing my condolences and sympathy.

so, i wrote a short post dedicate to his son, M.

" This post is dedicated to Mr. A's son.

maybe the road stretch ahead seems clouded,
and there may seem never ending as the lonesome follows,
you are not alone...
with your family by your side,
u gotta have a strong believe that you will be fine,
as strength keeps one alive..."

God Bless.

Mirror Technique

镜子技巧 (adapted from a China website)

镜子技巧是由美国心理学家布里斯托总结而成的，这一方法简单、有效，可以使你增加信心，强化激情。具体做法如下:

　　站在镜子前，笔直站立，后跟靠拢，收腹、挺胸、昂首、再做三四次深呼吸，直到对自己的能力和决心有了一种感受。凝视眼睛深处，告诉自己会得到所要的东西，大声说出它的名字。每天至少早晚做两次，还可以用肥皂将喜欢的口号，精彩的格言写在镜面上，只要它们确实代表你曾设想、并希望实现的某些事情即可。

　 　当你在镜子前站好，就反复对自己说，你会获得巨大成功，世界上没有任何东西能够阻止。这样做并不可笑，因为，任何渗入潜意识的设想，都可能在生活中成为 现实。眼睛作为心灵的窗户，它们不仅泄露你内心的思想活动，而且比想象的更能表达你的内心世界。一旦开始实践镜子技巧，眼睛就会产生一种你从未想到的你所 具备的力量，你会获得一种锐利的目光，使别人以为你正在注视着他们的内心世界。眼睛迟早会把信念的强度真切地表露出来，以赢得人们的赞赏。眼神能反映出一 个人在现实生活中所属的阶层、所处的位置。所以要训练你的眼睛，使之充满信心，而镜子则能帮助你。

　　最后，你将能运用镜子来重新确认自己。如果你真的想要有高度的自信心，而且这是你的目标的话，那就得把这项技巧好好地保留下来。

内心的挣扎

不再回头

回过头

得到的 并非我所愿

因此决定迈步向前

不再回头

寒风雨水 将我的心冻结了

轰隆雷声 将我的心震碎了

处在风雨中 我的心咆哮着

你听见了吗

Real Story: Surgery

Surgery (Flashback on April 2005)

Woke up at 7am.

Headed to hospital.

Mum lied on her bed, looking anxious.

We looked at each other, changing glances now and then.. waiting... waiting...

12.30pm. One female nurse arrived. i helped my mum to put on her surgery cloth. Mum was tensed.

1pm. We accompany her to base2, the Dewan Bedah. We saw her inside. Her face was anything but scared. She was strong.

we waited.

around 3pm. We saw a baby being pushed out of the Dewan Bedah. The parents followed anxiously upstairs.

I wished everyone who went into the Dewan to come out safely. I chanted Namo Amidabha under my breath. It relieved me by just chanting it under my breath.

we waited.

Chris accompanied me by sms. I owe her one. Thank you.

and waited.

A malay female, who was waiting for her husband to finish surgery chatted with me for a while. i don't feel like chatting at all~

we all ( that is those who r waiting for their loved ones) waited silently.

occasionally, some children ran around, fooling around. cheerful lot.

5.30pm. A nurse came out to call one of us to go inside. My heart shot up my throat, thumping furiously.

5mins later. My dad came out. Thank god. The surgery went smoothly. Yet, the tumour can't be taken completely. it's okay, assured the doctor. They've tried their best to cleaned the tumour away..

6pm. Mum came out. Her face was chalk white.

Went to ward6.

She looked weak. very.

We accompanied her till 10pm. Chatted a little. she's still very weak...

Chatted with a malay uncle whose son is diagnosed with diabetes, who inhabited the bed next to my mum. That man, 41yrs old.. his stomach was infected by germs because of diabetes. The surgeon had to get rid all of the decayed meat around his stomach... We feel very sorry for his son...

Health, is something we should put ahead of any other needs in life.
no matter what, health is very, very, very important. Take care of it, please.

Cherish your life. Cherish your love ones.