topic 2: To Marry or not to Marry
I choose to join the team on debating "early steady dating" and my group was on the proposing side.
as for another topic, to debate on the topic "to marry or not to marry" is kind of hard because our social norms is very against cohabiting couples. so no matter how good your stance in supporting cohabiting, most of the people will also have more traditional ideas to fight your stance off. cohabiting is still new for the eastern society, therefore it is not easy for the cohabiting couples to live a peaceful life. there will be a lot of rumours out and about which is damaging to their relationships. thus, there was just one person in class volunteered to oppose marriage for couples and therefore the other two opposing speaker have to "act" like they oppose to the idea of couples getting married.
so.. back to Early Steady Dating.
here's our points on early steady dating.
2) Starting early will not only help teenagers gain dating experiences, it can also in a way protect them from getting hurt in later life. It is better to start early than to start late. There are many cases where adults who start dating in their twenties made incorrect judgment in finding their ideal life partner, which end up in unsuccessful marriage. This is because they are too inexperience in evaluating whether the partner is really suitable before they get married. Some, get married because they think they are well passing the golden age of getting married. Therefore, they regretted later in life as they made too quick a decision to start a family when they thought they have met "the one".
3) Through early steady dating, you will be able to get to know many more faces and personalities there are in the society. if you start dating only after you graduate and have a stable job... How would you know, at 25... as you date your first boyfriend or girlfriend, he or she is really the one?? he or she is the first partner you ever dated. so if you start early, after a few possibly unsuccessful relationships, you will be able to recognise instantly when the one guy or woman who really compatible for you arrives! you will be ready by then. ^^
4) Maturity. Teenangers are said to be immature. yes, we do not deny this fact. BUT, it is only through gaining experience that people will grow more mature in life stages. In every aspects in life, including romantic aspects, we need experiences to learn. and through accumulating experiences, we become mature through time. the same applies in dating. as you date, you will come across different personalities and there will come a day where, at one stage, you come to understand what kind of personalities really suits you. and what qualities that you are looking for in life partner.
5) People says teenangers have no idea what love is. Then, let us ask again do you think every adults knows what love is? do you? therefore, we stress the point again that early steady dating helps. why? because starting to date early, as you experience, you will someday understand what is love to you. Every individual has his or her own perception and understanding of love. it is until that day when you finally realise what love means to you that you will not make mistake in finding your life partner. if you start dating in later stage in life, you will start as a newbie and will easily get false idea of what love is and make the deadly mistake of marrying the wrong person.
Therefore, my house strongly propose early steady dating. thank you.